[quote="Mikeys_cougar"]I wouldn't go any lower than 4.56's. the Dana 30 doesn't like 4.88 gears, something about ring gears breaking in them cuz they aren't thick enough... And I'd be careful with that Dana 35, everywhere I read on my xj forum, Dana 35's can barely handle 33" tires locked or not. But I'd say 4.56's would bring you back to where you wanna be[/quote]
Lots of folks running 4.88s in D30s with no issues. I have done it in my last 4 jeeps. I wheel with hundreds of folks that use 5.38s in their D44s. This is another internet rumor with no basis in fact, its always "my dads friend of a friend of a cousin". High gears break as much as low gears. Your shafts will go before the R&P unless you are running Chrome mollys or doing something stupid like pulling backward in 4WD. Check on Pirate, or most 4x4 shops if you don't believe me. I also have a TJ with a 4-banger in it and have 4.88 gears. I think they are adequate for the application and probably the only way you can even do more than 30MPH uphill with the 4-banger
I think you will regret getting 4.56s, as it's only a very minor improvement over the 4.10s that 4-banger TJs came with. You will kick yourself for not going 4.88, trust me.
As for the D35; one of the worst axles ever put in a Jeep and is a PITA (and sometimes impossible) to get the rig off the trail with a broken shaft. I wouldn't run more than 33s with a D35 and a 6 cyl, and take it very easy at that . That being said, some folks wheel the heck out of em and rarely have issues. Your 4-banger isn't pulling enough horsies/torque to easily break a D35, but I would still take it easy.